We are in the midst of spring cleaning, trying to dust off our homes, and make things nice and comfy again. What about our minds? Our lives? Are we just polishing the surface? Are we digging into the real issues we've been dragging on for too long?
We all carry some heavy luggage from our past, in some shape or form. We have stored them away, out of sight. But we, or our brain, haven't forgotten about them. They are lurking into our (new) life, knocking on our shoulders here and then. No matter how loud the music or how busy we are keeping ourselves.
Of course we have to start somewhere, so we start dealing with the obvious rotten and broken things in our homes, and lives. But if we want a new start, a fresh beginning, there is a bigger step to take... taking a close look at ourselves.
Do we want to be right all the time? Do we take on a fight for no reason, at any cost? Do we engage in drama as much as we can? These actions are causing high toxic reactions in our brain and our bodies. They run high on energy, which leaves you with almost none to do good things, more positive ones.
Start taking real care of you. Look at your surroundings, the people around you. Who is really a friend and who is wasting your time, and your life. Who is taking more from you than giving back or sharing? Who is trying to control you, or your life? Who is managing the way you exist, without you asking for it or giving permission?
Let's be honest, at times it is kind of easy to let others "do the job" for you, so you can sit back, gossip, lament and be frustrated. You can get out of this limbo, decide this is now over. You are going on a different path. Choose positivity and healthy relationships, you value yourself more than handing yourself over to just anybody. Create boundaries with both your friends and family and claim back your time and freedom of thinking and movements.
troking Give your brain and mind a real break. Try to limit your time on social media, the "likes" and "followers" are superficial stroking of your ego. Delete some "friends" or "followers" on social media. Make space for new ones.
Think about it, "follower" is another word for adherent, disciple, and partisan. While all these words mean "one who gives full loyalty and support to another", follower may apply to people who attach themselves either to the person or beliefs of another. Do you really know that person you are following, are you a "disciple"?
You know yourself, much better than anyone else. You own the key to your life and your happiness. Does anyone around you create a toxic environment for you? Some of these signs should alert you: lack of support, toxic communication, jealousy, controlling behaviors, resentment, dishonesty, patterns of disrespect, negative financial behaviors.
As to why people engage in toxic behaviors, some of the reasons can be that they are coping with some underlying problem, such as a history of trauma, unhealthy familial relationships, or addiction. But identifying such a behavior is a positive steps. Anyone feeling overwhelmed by any personal trauma or addition should seek the help of a professional.
Respect yourself more, love yourself more. Build up mental walls around you to protect yourself, until you feel strong enough to just say NO. It is a karmic wheel, negativity only creates and repeats negativity. Break that chain. You can free yourself from this toxicity and have a more peaceful and fulfilled life.
Clean your mind and soul in a positive way. Start with a positive routine, breathing, exercising, health food intake. Practice airplane mode if you can, cut off your Wi-Fi and any internet related activities for one hour (or start with 30 minutes, if you really have to...) and use this time for you, to take care of you. Have a soothing bath or shower, choose a relaxing or energizing aroma therapy soap or gel (aromatherapy does wonder on tired mind), do some stretching (helps the energy flow), read a really good book (not on a screen if you can, yes, they still exists, check your local library or thrift stores), or if you have too, choose your free ebook here.
Take a 10 minutes guided morning meditation. According to research, meditation can stimulate the release of endorphins and might even boost your mood. Let go of anxiety, fear and worries and reset with healing energy for productivity and a perfect day. Try this meditation with Boho Beautiful Yoga, their video can be found here.
Pick up the right set of clothes for you, the ones you feel good inside, comfortable, with a positive color. Research says color can absolutely affect your mood, behavior and stress levels. Colors also influence our moods and the way other people respond to us. Amazingly, colors can even change our heart rate, blood pressure and respiration, as researchers Keith Jacobs and Frank Hustmyer discovered in 1974.
Give yourself a great start of the day. You can also decide to add a really positive mantra (or positive affirmation) to inspire you such as:
I am love. I am purpose.
I don't sweat the small stuff.
I am adventurous.
I feed my spirit.
I am in charge of how I feel and today I am choosing happiness.
I am my own superhero.
I will not compare myself to strangers on the Internet.
And the key to success with mantras is the repetition, remember your brain loves to hear it a couple of times so he can adopt it and make you believe it.
Now that you are freeing yourself from toxic environment and people, that you have taken a really good at yourself, can you declare yourself as non-toxic? You can use all of the above to analyze your own behaviors and actions.
Sometimes we act upon emotions, the key is to define if this is a pattern and whether it can be changed, so all of us get a more peaceful life. The important thing to remember is, you are the KEY to (your) change.
To finish on a poetic note, some wise words.