We are all doing it, staying right where we feel great, good, comfortable, safe, risk free and harm free. And this comfort zone may be taking different shapes and colors. But what do we mean by a comfort zone: "A comfort zone is a psychological state in which things feel familiar to a person and they are at ease and (perceive they are) in control of their environment, experiencing low levels of anxiety and stress. " (Wikipedia).
The nuance there is "perceived". It is what we think (or feel) it is. You can also call it safe place, sanctuary, refuge, retreat, hideaway, asylum, haven, shelter, hideout. It sounds pretty nice, right? Well, as always there is a downside to this.
Science has confirmed that once you know the best way of doing something and get into repetition mode, your brain's learning centers essentially shut down.
“Sometimes we have to step out of our comfort zones. We have to break the rules. And we have to discover the sensuality of fear. We need to face it, challenge it, dance with it.” ― Kyra Davis
Why do we seek comfort? When life becomes too difficult and our bodies react with the release of chemicals that makes us feel anxious or fearful. And instead of retiring in your comfort zone or reaching out to other escapes such as alcohol or drugs, there are steps you can take to overcome and break out of it: take nothing for granted, switch up your routine, move toward your fears, give up control, try something new until you feel comfortable, ask the questions other people don't like to, start conversations with strangers, agree to something you wouldn't normally consider.
If you want to grow as a person, you need to expand your comfort zone. You know you have the strength to do so, you can take a slow approach to this. With the Covid-19 pandemic you may have even reduce the space of your physical comfort zone or used substances to make it through these rough times. But the clouds are starting to lift and there is hope to see some improvements in the months ahead. You can listen to your aspirations, speak out about your dreams, make plans for the future, set goals. Take control of your life and manage your fears. It is all reachable, at your fingertip.
These months will mark the beginning of a series of transitions and you may feel overwhelmed. Remember that we have a special program called "Your Transition Guide", in our "Programs and Tools" section, we can be by your side on your transition journey.
Change and transitions are shoving your beliefs, maybe making you doubts. But only if you let them. There are millions of women trying to make sense of these times and their resilience and drive is admirable and an inspiration.
You are amongst the modern fighters and warriors, with a strong faith in yourselves. You have everything in you to thrive and step out of your comfort zone. You can make this a great opportunity for a better life. Don't be afraid.
“Be a strong woman. So your daughter will have a role model and your son will know what to look for in a woman when he’s a man.”